'When did you first feel like a grown woman and not a girl?'
We wrote down our answers and shared them, first in pairs, then in larger groups. The group of women was racially and economically diverse, but the answers had a very similar theme. Almost everyone first realized they were becoming a grown woman when some dude did something nasty to them.
'I was walking home from ballet and a guy in a car yelled, ‘Lick me!”'
'I was babysitting my younger cousins when a guy drove by and yelled, “Nice ass!”'
There were pretty much zero examples like ‘I first knew I was a woman when my mother and father took me out to dinner to celebrate my success on the debate team.’ It was mostly men yelling shit from cars. Are they a patrol sent out to let girls know they’ve crossed into puberty? If so, it’s working.